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2015年8月28日星期五

女實習生


請吸取萊溫斯基 (Monica Lewinsky) (圖)的教訓,不要成為已婚男人的消遣。

身為女人,必須學會應付不同種類的男人。這一課,公立學校不會教。如果你來自普通家庭,你接受的教育,其實是公營機構提供的標準套餐,帶有中國特色父權社會的色彩,要求學生服從權威(男人),但是不會教導女孩子如何保護自己。原因?女人一旦有了自我保護及獨立自主的意識,就會威脅男人的主導地位。

華人社會,大男人多。有些男人,年紀不小,已婚和有小孩,對妻子感到厭倦,但是又不想離婚。原因?他想繼續享受老婆付出的一切,包括照顧他的起居飲食、服侍他年邁生病的父母,替他生孩子傳宗接代。至於老婆滿足不到的那部份(性慾),就由另一個(或多個的)女人代勞。這種自私男人,怕麻煩,但是貪方便,會在辦公室尋找獵物(即是情婦或免費妓女)。如果他是男上司或男波士,也許會性騷擾女下屬,亦即是濫用權力。原因?離開了工作間,不會有女人理睬他,而他又不想花錢嫖妓。男人貪嫩口,初出道的小女孩,缺乏人生經驗,正合他的胃口。這種男人,俗稱 MBA (Married but available),是同事眼中的狗公,但是後者不會公開談論,更不會向女實習生發出警告。他們只會扮演花生友(港式粵語:觀眾),靜待好戲上演,為沉悶的工作生涯提供娛樂。對,辦公室很危險。

如果你是女實習生,發現已婚男人借指導你工作為名,故意接近你,而你又察覺到對方心懷不軌,可以採用以下的招數:1. 如果對方向你索取電話號碼,請向經常被抄牌(粵語:索取電話號碼)的空中小姐學習,提供一個少用的電郵,對方的訊息一概不回覆。2. 如果你是寸嘴辣妹,不妨用開玩笑的口吻說:「哈哈,講呢 D ?」(這個嘛)然後轉身去洗手間。3. 如果對方主動提供自己的電話號碼,請把它輸入電話簿然後阻隔 (Block),對方的訊息一概不回覆。4. 請男親友接你下班。5. 上網找個知名度比較低的泡菜仔(韓國男藝人)的照片,作為你的手機或電腦 Wallpaper ,故意讓對方看見,用行動表示你喜歡小鮮肉(嫩男)。6. 如果你會玩 Photoshop ,不妨把自己 Key 上去,製造合成照片欺騙老男人。7. 用電腦瀏覽關於性騷擾的網頁(提示:平機會),故意讓對方看見,以收阻嚇之效。

除非閣下是 Drama Queen ,喜歡小事化大,否則低調處理,讓對方知難而退。記住:不要被已婚男人消耗你的青春,也不要被捲入別人的感情漩渦,更不要亂收兵(港式粵語:女人收集供差遣的男人)或玩潛規則,以免影響自己的名聲及危害生命安全。姑勿論閣下對實習的看法是吸收經驗、無可奈何(因為要計算學分)、官商勾結(交完學費給官府還要替商界當義工),客客氣氣,好來好去,已經足夠。只不過是幾個月的事,很快會成為過去。除非閣下是在工作間尋找結婚對象的人,否則上司同事只不過是生命中的過客。當中一定有壞人,但是未必值得每一次都大規模和高調地跟對方開戰。華人社會,女人跟男人正面衝突,容易吃虧。棉裡藏針,不失為可行的做法。甚麼叫正面衝突?請參考公屋烈女對露體狂老翁的回應(在街坊面前大聲呼喝對方):「咁細,收埋佢啦!」(粵語:你這麼小,還拿出來?)快狠準,惡女本色。跟本姑娘玩性騷擾?我要你抬不起頭!

照片來源:
http://images.thehollywoodgossip.com/iu/s--MCrBji6M--/t_full/f_auto,fl_lossy,q_75/v1399481883/monica-lewinsky-new-york-post-headline.jpg

延伸閱讀/參考資料:

平等機會委員會:認識你的權利:工作間性騷擾
http://www.eoc.org.hk/eoc/graphicsfolder/showcontent.aspx?content=know%20your%20rights(sex)

Wikipedia – Monica Lewinsky (1973-)
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Monica_Lewinsky
Extract: Monica Samille Lewinsky (born July 23, 1973) is a former White House intern with whom United States President Bill Clinton admitted to having had what he called an "inappropriate relationship" while she worked at the White House in 1995 and 1996. The affair and its repercussions, which included Clinton's impeachment, became known as the Lewinsky scandal. As a result of the scandal, Lewinsky gained worldwide celebrity status; she subsequently engaged in a variety of ventures including designing a line of handbags under her name, being an advertising spokesperson for a diet plan, working as a television personality, and then leaving the public spotlight to pursue a master's degree in psychology in London. In 2014 she returned to public view, discussing the scandal and speaking out against cyberbullying.

Vanity Fair (June 2014) - Shame and Survival
http://www.vanityfair.com/style/society/2014/06/monica-lewinsky-humiliation-culture
Extract: She tried public appearances. She tried being reclusive. She tried leaving the country, and she tried finding a job. But the epic humiliation of 1998, when her affair with Bill Clinton became an all-consuming story, has followed Monica Lewinsky every day. After 10 years of self-imposed reticence, and now hoping to help victims of Internet shaming, she critiques the culture that put a 24-year-old through the wringer and calls out the feminists who joined the chorus.

The internship
Generation i
Temporary, unregulated and often unpaid, the internship has become the route to professional work
The Economist (Sep 6th 2014)
http://www.economist.com/news/international/21615612-temporary-unregulated-and-often-unpaid-internship-has-become-route
Extract: The rise in internships has been encouraged by universities which, anxious to justify sharply rising tuition fees, are seeking to get their students on the path to jobs. Another motive for American colleges and universities is that 90% offer academic credit for work placements, sometimes during term time. A growing number make an internship a condition of graduating for at least some courses. And students usually continue to pay fees while doing them. “For universities it’s really cheap money,” says Gina Neff, a professor of communication at the University of Washington. “They are getting tuition dollars and not having to spend instructional dollars.” Some internships are valuable, she says, citing one she oversees in which students work on local newspapers with support from teachers. But some are not: she vetoed a Hollywood PR-internship after it turned out to be little more than an unpaid job promoting films on campus. Some universities might have pocketed the fees and looked the other way.

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